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5 Daily Tips to Fight Depression & improve your way of thinking

“Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression. No man is free who cannot control himself.”

–Pythagoras

 

Depression as defined by doctors is a weakness that involves the physical, psychological aspects of a human being and that affects his feeling about himself & thinking about things, this also affects the person’s eating & sleeping system which drives him/her toward a self enclosure.

Here i share with you 5 things are very important to fight this feeling:

  • You’re the master of your world, never lower your self-esteem, as you may notice you’re always thinking about yourself as someone with all the weakness, well you should definitely erase this idea from your mind, everyone of us has his own power and weakness, no one is a perfect human being.

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  • Above aspects drives us toward another very important thing which is comparison, comparing yourself to others will by all odds drive negativity to your mood, as you will be regretting not having things that others are enjoying, well first of all enjoy what you have, no one is living the life of his dreams, we just should have good time experiencing what we have and keep you mind open to explore new things in life.

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  • Never Stay Alone, well sometimes we need to stay alone to gather our ideas or to just relax from others, or to plan for your own life which is definitely normal, but this is not to be kept as daily routine, staying alone increases the rate of auto criticisms which occurs to negative thinking, staying alone for a while & from time to time is good thing, while being alone everyday is not.

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  • Keep yourself busy. Reading, exercising, cooking, socializing, … etc, these are great natural antidepressant that keeps you well protected against negative feelings. These activities push your mind to release neurotransmitters such as dopamine which is naturally increase enjoyment and Serotonin which keeps the person’s motivation at high level.

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  • Take care of your health: having good and healthy meals, taking advantage of night hours for sleeping, having good time showering & acquiring positive energy from sun light, this is a small list of things that empower your health and lower the effect of depression in your life.

Zouheir D.Z

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Some advices about forgiveness

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that”

–Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

1-You will never know how strong you are until you forgive someone who was not sorry, and accept an apology you never received.

2-They say forgive and forget, I will tell you that you will never forget, we never did and never will. Life gets hard, close people hurt us; these are things we will never forget. Nevertheless, these things will help us grow older. So in order to be more peaceful, I would rather say ‘forgive and let it go’;

3-Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. You should decide to forgive others so your heart would not be full of hate. Life is too short to fill it with enmity.

4-Sometimes, it is not enough to forgive other. Sometimes, you have to forgive yourself. Instead of blaming yourself or others, learn that it is okay to look back at it once in a while to remind yourself what you learned. “Yes, the past can hurt, but the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it.” Rafiki said to Simba

5- A chapter closed. A huge weight lifted. A chapter could not close until every last thing was sorted. Reach for gestures of kindness even if it is not reciprocated, and that’s okay. Your pursuit of inner peace will call a termination.

6-Always, remember that forgiveness equals peace. Whoever you are, and whatever they did to you, in good karma we trust. Always be kind.

Zahira D.Z

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10 ways to simplify life

“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.”

–Lao Tzu

1. You can’t read other people’s mind and thoughts and don’t expect them to be able to read yours. Communication is the key to get things clear.

2. Don’t expect that everyone will like you and would like to be your friend. We all are different, and we all like different things. Instead of being upset about it, invest your time in a few good friends. That’s all you really need to feel happy and fulfilled. Better have few friends to count on than to have plenty and no one cares about you.

3. Create a budget and live within your means. Avoid accruing charges by borrowing money that only will cause your stress.

4. Never be jealous of someone, that will devour you inside out. Only compare yourself with yourself.

5. Organize your clutter and donate some stuff you don’t use anymore. You feel more calm in an organized place and you’ll feel good about sharing with others.

6. Don’t get drawn into pointless dramas in other peoples’ lives that will only stress you. (unless it’s a real problem and you know you might help).

7. Finish what you’ve started and then do something else, you’ll be proud of yourself and more motivated to start something new.

8. Treat every person you meet with respect, patience and kindness. Every person might be fighting a hard battle of life on their own.

9. Accept there are things that you can’t change or control, so stop wasting energy on them and focus more on what you can make better.

10. Don’t be too proud to apologize and don’t be too harsh to not forgive. Admit it when you’re wrong, say you’re sorry, and move on. Else, accept the apology and move on as well.

 

Zahira D.Z

Self Emprovement,

5 things that destroys your daily productivity

When we think about human productivity, we go straight forward to three main points : energy, efficiency and time

  • Energy : this is how the person will use his energy plan during the day, to face these long hours of work, to save his energy for late tasks that are scheduled to be at the last hours of the day.
  • Efficiency : all about the how the work will be done and the quality of work that the person will be able to provide and how his performance will be at every stage of the day.
  • Time: this is a critical part of the process, how the person will need to schedule the tasks and how the person will manage to spread the energy during the day.

Human beings are not machines that you can run a script in their lives in order to keep the same level of performance and productivity and to schedule the same plan for them and that they will follow without any problem, we all know that everyone has his own life, his own plans, his own problems, each one of us will have to adapt the daily life at his own pace and make it productive and profitable as much as needed.

Also human productivity depends mainly on how the person’s behavior and on the person’s habits and the things that he or she used to do on daily basis, here are 5 things that we shouldn’t do in order to improve our productivity :

👉 Get the snooze off, this is very important, gaining that more 5 or 10 min sleep after hitting the snooze will not help you get enough sleep and start your day with a big smile. The snooze hitting is the worst habit that destroys your day, because your morning mindset is the main pilot that will carry the whole day, so if you build it wrong, you can imagine how the rest of the day will be.

👉 Social Media, as we all know, it became a usual thing to wake up and first thing first is to get your phone and check latest notifications, you start your day with an addiction that will get you distracted the whole day ( you check the notifications so you will respond to them, then you will wait for answers and news about them which is totally wrong), why not starting your day with old actions, get the newspaper and read, turn on the news on your radio or tv, get the new technology out of your sight.

👉 Talking Negatively and talking with wrong people, every human being has an internal process that allows him to feed his brain and thoughts. Imagine that when you wake up, when you get in the car or public transportation, when you’re at the office or when you grab coffee or go shopping by the of the day, you meet only negative people and make negative conversations, you only weaken yourself, you really need to have as checklist of discussion that you don’t need to know about during your day, a checklist of people you need to avoid. the negative thoughts that you feed your mind will definitely destroy your productivity.

👉 sleeping late!! of course, in order to wake up in a good shape, you will need to sleep well, having a good enough time to sleep is highly recommended. the duration needed depends on every person as it’s not a prescription from your doctor ( from 5 to 8 hours). staying late and missing night hours to get some rest is a bad habit, as you know the night hours will never be replaced even that you continue your nap till noon time, you won’t get up with high performance.

👉 Also missing breakfast, this a point that our parents try to keep us doing but as kids we fight against it, we do not want to have breakfast, cause we’re sleepy persons we want to replace the breakfast time with a good 15 or 20 minute sleep, yeah we all have same thoughts !! but we are wrong, having a good, healthy and fresh breakfast is very very important, cause your entire energy will be gained at that moment.

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Let’s get to know the Best practices to maintain discipline

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.”
__ Jim Rohn

First of all you’ll need to define your goal and this is the start point, once you get to know your specific vision you’ll start to draw your path toward it and you will start noticing some actions that will be needed to achieve that goal.

And this where discipline appears to be a mandatory key, cause discipline will keep your heart and mind focused and enduring to get step by step to your goal:

– Time management: manage your day, as there’s time to sleep, to eat, to exercise, to socialize & to work.

– Organize your actions: too many tasks during the day means energy to be spent, organizing your schedule will help you get the most of your energy.

– Knowledge: an empty mind is small world, maximize your vision of life and get to learn the best you can.

– Sleep: very important, sleeping is the time to get your energy back and get some rest.

– Exercise & eat well : a healthy body is a healthy mind.

– Perseverance : do not drop it. keep up and plan your road on breakpoints, once you reach the first make these steps ( criticize it, learn from it, delete it) and up for the next point.

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6 Tips to cope with bad days

“It all begins with you. If you do not care for yourself, you will not be strong enough to take care of anything in life.”
-Leon brown

 

How to cope with bad days:

1. Recognize that it’s a feeling – and our moods go up and down. Shrug your shoulders, grit your teeth and choose to make it through the day. Nothing’s really wrong – and there is nothing wrong with you. It’s just the way you’re feeling – and our feelings usually change.

2. Don’t be hard and condemn yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling miserable and bad, or for feeling apathetic and low on energy. Be patient, understanding and gentle with yourself. You’re no worse than others as we ALL have bad days.

3. Do something rather than nothing. Do a few mindless tasks so you don’t just waste the day – and you’re likely to feel better once those you’ve got those out the way as they’re usually the things that you never want to do!

4. Only do as much as you have to. It’s going to take all your strength just to make it through the day. Preserve your energy – and allow some things to slide. You can always get round to them another day.

5. Be extra nice to yourself. One of the best ways to fight a bleary day is to be nice to yourself and to do the kind of things that help to lift your mood and to brighten up your day. For example, go out for a coffee, or have a bubble bath, turn up your favorite music or call a bunch of friends. Do all the kinds of things you know will help to boost your mood.

6. Remind yourself that it’s likely to pass. A bad day is just a day. It’s not the whole of your life. It just means that right now you want to crawl back into bed. It doesn’t mean your goals are wrong or that you won’t succeed in life! You’re just having a bad day – and it’s likely to pass.

Zahira D.Z

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(5) Five daily habits that can change your life

To build a habit is challenge that you’ll take for days and days, it is not easy to get used to something that you’re not familiar with, or something that you will take energy and patience and time from you in order to allow your mind and body to get at ease with it.

Most of us gets in bad at night and at that moment your mind and soul starts the motivation engine, yeah that’s right, at the moment when you’re getting to bed there it comes the most powerful you and starts to build dreams of your future you, at the moment when you’re so tired after a very long day, the powerful you comes at your door and begins with showing you your bad rituals and bad things that you do & then he starts to get you motivated to change.

I personally can confirm that i never woke up with the same motivation, i never woke up with that powerful me that came at night, the powerful me comes only when my eyes start to close.

Well it’s good to have that power and motivation by night, it’s really a very good thing to receive all that huge data that integer you mind at late night, but it’s not good at all to let it go by closing your eyes and starting to plan what will you do tomorrow. yeah !!!! it is not good at all to start planing for tomorrow when you’re at bed cause you’re already asleep, tired, weak, so in order to keep that hope of change you’ll need to keep a trace of the powerful you, in other words, you’ll need to keep that data which you receive at night, gather it, all that motivation, all those bad habits, all those plans that comes into your mind & all the solutions available at that time, define them in very strict way and then WRITE THEM, KEEP THEM ON YOUR NOTEBOOK, REGISTER THEM SO THAT IT WON’T GO AWAY.

“Verba volant, scripta manent”

in other words :

“spoken words fly away, written words remain”

if you don’t write down your ideas, if you don’t keep a black on white register of your plans, motivations, thinkings, images & all what you get in your mind, believe me you’re not going to grow in further, do not say that you’ll remember to do that & that & that, or you’ll do this plan and you’ll stick to it. Once you’re awake, your mind won’t allow you to remember as you got him a lot of processing time to remember and a lot of thoughts that it cannot have access.

To sum up, your mind is powerful enough to keep your track and get you to safe roads and process plans for you, but you’re the master of your mind if you don’t shape it and model it and use it in perfect way toward your dreams and visions, it will not get mine gold for you or manufacture diamonds for you, you get him the data needed for you dreams and plans and it will trace path and signs to help you get throughout the obstacles that will come along.

Here i will list 5 simple habits that will help you to make the change that you want with your life:

  • Write down all :

As expressed before, you’ll need to write down all your thoughts and ideas, there’s no harm at all to make a To Do List available with you all the time, no one will laugh at you and makes jokes about you if you keep your notebook all day with you (in all cases if he does, he’s the loser though), once you are keeping a written plan in your hand, you’ll keep yourself sticked into it cause you’ll be motivated to see it every time you remember one of your dream, you’ll appreciate it every time you get a new idea in mind and you have where to register it, or developing idea that may complete one of your points.

keep a schedule of your daily actions ( work, exercise, spirituals, reading, studies, …), try to stick at 50% of it at your first day & develop it within days, try to just 1% every day, you’ll notice a very big change within two months.

Register motivational quotes & saying of your favorite speaker or writer, and get used to look at it randomly during the day, it will keep you focused and will refresh your internal energy.

  • Make a positive morning routine :

Simple as it may seems to be “making my bed”, i swear this is was my first habit that developed, i noticed that the day when i let the bed on it’s status i really get a bad mood during the day, i come back home and find it like that i get nervous and stressed, while when i do make my bed it’s a very changing action, especially when you get back home and you find your home with everything is on it’s place, you really get relieved.

Start your small morning routine, try different things and order them as you wish: make you bed, wash you face and hands, make your coffee, make your complete breakfast, turn on radio, turn on news, get your morning newspaper, go for a walk, have your shower, get your fun time with your kids, get your fun time with you pet, … these are different things that you have to adjust at your choices and your personal routine.

But it has to be, as stated above, a POSITIVE ROUTINE, you need to do things that get you to build the positive idea of your current day, it has to be a routine that will create a positive mood to start your long day.

And the earlier you wake the more you create time for you to enjoy your morning.

  • feed your mind

(Read, Read, read !!!) & (Listen, Listen, Listen!!!). this is the summary, the most successful people are those who read the most, read different kind of books, do not stick into your favorite literature theme, read all kinds of books, read and focus on your reading so that you extract the meaningful ideas and seek between the lines, read it once to understand the general meaning & read it twice to encompass the whole knowledge.

Once you read the articles, books, poems, news,… after a while you’ll start to read between the lines, you’ll start to differentiate from other people, you will be able to get a fruitful reading from short lines, you’ll be able to think differently as to focus on the subject that you’re interested to, and to begin studying all the possible cases and you’ll start to reach a higher level of knowledge treatment.

  • exercise

We cannot focus on our minds and forget about our body, it’s not a good idea to let down your body and your physical health, it’s mandatory to enhance your physical power that will keep your energy at it’s higher levels.

Your mind is nourished by the power supplied by your heart and your body, so you definitely need to keep a sharp schedule for this matter, as mentioned before you will need to keep exercising as part of your daily schedule.

Also exercising will help you to develop a great thing which is to be a single tasker, most of people keep bragging of the fact that they are mastering to be multi tasks heroes, “one day or another they will finish by ruining all down”, gambling with multiple tasks is a good thing if you really master a thing over another but you cannot master all, so focusing on a thing to complete is and start another is perfect habit to keep you focused and well organized.

  • appreciate and build positivity

Be grateful to what you have in hands, appreciate the thing that are already positive in your life, get your thinking off all the negatives, it’s important to register the bad habits that you do not appreciate, but not to remember them all day long, you really need to register them as to erase them from your mind, and day by day you’ll start noticing the magic happens.

Be Surrounded by positive people, laugh with friends and family a lot, get some fun into you life, play with kids & spend time with them, watch & read comics, start your morning with a smile, it’s very important to feel joy in your daily life.

Help others and make them feel same, happiness and joy are contagious, when you see other people smiling, you’ll be too.

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”
― Albert Camus

Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones.
― Benjamin Franklin

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Shy and Scared of people. How can I change my life?

The most thing which’s killing most shy people ( introvert in a special mention), is to meet new faces, is to be in front of a situation that requires interaction with new people, to talk to them and make daily talks. it is quite easier when it concerns talking about work purposes or special subjects that call for small talk & Q-A (Question-Answer) talks, but these situation does require sometime to develop the conversation in another level which will make the person strongly present in his surroundings and his space.

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The question “how can i change my life” , can be asked in another way, cause it’s not always about how you’re living you’re life, May be the life you’re having is better than 70% of all the population in your country or more, maybe changing your life will make life worst for you, we cannot change life but we can improve ourselves and improve the situations we’re encountering.

Before telling you small steps that are efficient to help you beating shyness and make you strong against these scary situation, let’s talk about a special word which is mentioned above, “SCARED OF PEOPLE”, if you look deeply into this you will regret saying that, cause who’s that person on earth that will make your life hard? you’re the master of your life, scared of people, meaning that all persons you meet are going to do something bad to you & will hurt you, which is not correct at all, what the worst thing that can happen, they will laugh at you, maybe they will talk about you on your back, or they will take a small picture of you in their minds, but what will they earn from it, nothing absolutely nothing, they are just making their heads full of unwanted and non useful things, and what is it for you in that, you’re gaining experience for meeting them, having new ideas from them, it’s a 100% beneficial situation for you, perhaps it’s A SCARY SITUATION but not SCARY PEOPLE, that way you’re just putting them in higher level than you and this is will make the situation worst.

believe in yourself first, cause you know a lot and you experienced a lot, you’re always on top of every Human being, you have something and you know something that the others have not.

here i will put you through some tips that will help you overcome these situations:

  • Be Confident:

Most important thing, be confident, act confident. Maybe at first you’ll be acting it but step by another you’ll gain it and will be one of your most valuable features.

Try to maintain your actions as to show others that you’re definitely not scared, and i repeat this one, show them that you’re not scared, cause once they feel your fear they will try to take profit from you, which will not be helpful.

Keep eye contact, get closer to your opponent, shake hands in strong way, engage first in the first talks, even that you’re not good at talking but engage first in saying “hello”, this will improve your position and will give you a first star in your being confident process.

  • Focus and be mindful

Once you are in, never think about getting back. this is to mean, once you make the first talk with people, do not think about yourself and distract your mind with harmful thoughts, keep your thoughts and feelings arranged and inline with your “being confident” process, also a very important thing, is to be a good listener, this will let you take time to chain your ideas and will help you set your next words.

mindfulness will let you speak with clear voice and this is very important to show off your confident person

  • Be you (“be vulnerable”)

Once you meet new people & as always, everyone will start making the picture of your personality, this is the normal human being process, even you, you will start shaping people mind in your head, so you have to give others the real image of you, do not fake yourself to show that you’re a special person just be you, show other the real you so that they will get the real picture of you. this will enhance your position among the group that you’re engaged in people will start considering you and involving you in the conversations.

I know that i’ve mentioned before that you have to act confident but this is a quality that you’re intending to build and not something that you will fake just to impress people and one time use, they will discover the real you sooner or later and then you’ll be in worst position, so act with qualities you want to build (confident, intellectual, caring …) and not ( cool, fun famous person, careless …) these last they will only harm you later.

  • Talk about anything

The conversations in a group of people will generate a lot of subjects and ideas that will be coming & going, try to engage don’t sit back and listen only, try to talk even with that one sentence that you have in mind ( and this is will be my next point) ,just express those Three, four, five words that you have in mind.

The shyness will not be beaten if you sit back and close your self in that box of dark thoughts, listen to people and say something, anything related to that subject even that you’re not expert in it, you have always that door of questions to open, if you really don’t have an idea about the subject, just ask questions about what you do not know, you will be able to answer later to questions that will be asked for you, just do not sit silent. believe me it will make things harder then ever.

  • Get out of the box

the most killing thing is that shy and timid people, they always have something to say, but they keep it to themselves, WHY ? afraid that they will judge you? afraid that they will shut you up? afraid that you’ll be the center of a laughing community?

you’re right this might happen, but you can always change it:

– if they got judgements, you can change their thoughts, cause you’ll engage again and again and you will prove you point

– if they shut you up. NO they won’t, no one can shut you up. you can say whatever you like

– if they start laughing. OKEY , Great let us make it a joke laugh with them and continue with your talk. no problem at all.

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5 thing to stop worrying about every little border in your life

You’re probably wondering & asking your self why should i care about the image that people are drawing about me, why i’m getting frustrated about how the day will go when i go out, why is it too hard to accept what i really want to do?

All these questions make life hard enough to get throughout your day, yeah it’s really a heavy luggage on your back, but get this you’re getting anxious for nothing, people are going with their lives, no one is caring about what you do (expect for people who loves and spare that particular feeling which makes them really happy when they see your smile), i have a question for you before i go any further, Have you ever got the feeling of everyone is watching you while you go in the street and suddenly you remember that you have to go back to the other side, and in that particular moment you get the weirdest feeling ever, the feeling that makes you believe that while you’re getting back from the same path, everyone is watching you and saying “ here is that weird person, coming back again she might lost her mind again” , well this is all in your head and if you really get your eyes up you’ll see that everyone is busy with his own luggage that he or she’s carrying in his or her back.

Free your mind and live your day in the way you want to.

Here i want to share with you a list of 5 things that will help you get used to the feeling of anxiety, which is a normal feeling, everyone in this earth is feeling anxious about something, but everyone finds his own way to live beside it and ignore it.

1. Exercising:

A good run will get your body and mind into a high level of concentration and will let you focus on the path that you are taking, also it’s perfect way to get your adrenaline up this will release the internal energy that you’re in need to.

This also will help you improve your health care and it’s a perfect remedy to quit smoking, build positive habits and clear your mind by setting a powerful mindset and a strong one.

Exercices will allow you also to have a peaceful sleep, as you may notice, the most annoying part of the day is when you’re going to bed, all of your stressful situations will get back to you while you’re preparing for a good night sleep, and this is when your anxiety party begins, well, sport exercises will definitely help you to get through this, it will create the connection between your body and your mind to the biological system to get used to sleeping times.

2. Reading & Writing

This is a two factor benefits, not only will keep you busy with your book that will get you into the other world of fiction or drama or whatever your interest is, it will also set a very stable and improving background for your knowledge and your general culture.

I know this a thing that you may have heard it a lot from your parents, your teachers, your famous speaker, but if you think about it for a second, you’ll get the whole idea in your mind, improving my general knowledge will definitely makes me up for engaging conversations with people, will definitely makes strong at proving my point of you and my presence around people.

Also having your small notebook on your desk is good way to keep tracing the older you, all things that you’ve written today will help you see another you for tomorrow.

3. Spend time with people who makes you laugh

Very important thing, even though you’re a shy person or getting anxious around people, but spending time with friends and colleagues that makes you laugh will definitely change your mood.

A recent study have shown that laughing releases endorphins which is related directly to the brain (opioid receptors), these last, the more a person has in his brain, the more focused and powerful mind he sets.

It also makes things easy for you to relief the anxiety that you’re going through during the day,

Moreover, watching funny movies or theatre with others is another way of conversation making about the acts and making laughs about them which also a very interesting remedy.

4. Meditate

Having your silent moment and loneliness place is very important, try to spend sometime alone with your mind clearing music, sit in a place where you enjoy having a moment of peace of mind, without any distraction from your daily surroundings.

Set a weekly or a Three Days plan in order to keep your Meditation routine sharp and get engaged with it, it’s all about forcing yourself to keep it as planned, the more you get involved with it the more you get focus on high level mindsets.

Meditation will also help you to set life goals, having that moment of peace, alone with your body and your mind, will makes you creative about setting your own goals and will let you define the track that you are willing to go through.

While meditating, think more about your life changes, and think about the fact that you’re precious to yourself, do not let anyone ruin your day for you, life is too short for letting anything or anyone steals the smile from your face every single day.

5. Help Others

the question that will rise in this fifth point is that, how can i help other while i’m not even able to help my self?

you’re totally wrong, you’re not unable to help yourself, the fact that you’re reading this and searching about how to improve yourself, and how to change your life, it is already a big step in helping yourself toward a better you.

Well about helping others, take it for granted, while you’re caring about others and helping them getting through them, it will make you learn about other things that school and teachers will never teach you, helping others will make you analyze others aspects of life and the purpose of improving yourself.

“Fear is inevitable, I have to accept that, but I cannot allow it to paralyze me.” — Isabel Allende

Every person is going through a lot, the poor, the rich, the famous, the business man, the student, the employee, … all of us have serious problems that are backing us and stopping us from getting forward but how long, take your life in your hand, plan for it and improve it.

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What is the way to get over shyness?

One Single Lesson i’ve learned and it was confirmed to me today Dec 4th 2017, DO NOT BE SHY, even if it’s beyond your hand, as it is the case for me, I try and I try to overcome it but in vain. But Today i’ve lived an event that was, I don’t know what to say, it was like a large foot stepping on my head, and why?

BECAUSE I WAS SHY, AND COULD DEFEND MY SELF, I COULD’T SAY “NO”.

This is why, i searched for this particular question, in Real Life there’s only interests, no one will care about you or care about what you do, there’s only interests that get in the line, and once you’re SHY and a “YES” person, every single person who finds interest in you, will get all what he wants.

So why being so Shy that you “I” cannot even defend your own interest, why Being so shy that you cannot present yourself, and be strong enough to say “NO”:

  • No I cannot do that.
  • No I Won’t do that.
  • No It’s Not in my interest.

Shyness will kill your inside, shyness will prevent you from being what you’re dreaming of, Shyness will let you with a Head Down, GET up and Rise your head, No One is able to live the struggles that you’re living , No one will be able to step with you in every Step you take, except Yourself.

 

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“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” ― August Wilson